There is a lot of advice out there for new parents. Unfortunately, most of it is buried deep in the pages of expensive books and websites that you need to divulge your life story to access. This can make it tough to figure out where you’re getting things right and where you may need to pick up the slack. The good news is that we’ve read these books, trawled these websites, and interviewed every grandparent.
We’ve distilled all of this knowledge and hearsay into some simple, practical advice, that all parents should look to avoid.
1. Comparing themselves to others
Many parents will compare themselves to others without realising it. Sometimes they do so in a positive way but mostly, they do so in a negative way. If you’re trying to learn from others’ mistakes or successes, that’s one thing. However, when making these comparisons, people forget that no two families are the same. Each has its own unique circumstances and challenges to overcome. Don’t worry about how good or bad other parents are – it’s a game you’ll never win. Instead, focus on your own family and do your best.
2. Using technology too much
Technology is great, but using it too much isn’t good for you or your child. Try to use it in moderation and for a reason. For example, letting them enjoy some of their favourite kids cartoons on occasion is perfectly fine. Letting them endlessly scroll on social media or watch cartoons all day, however, is not good.
3. Neglecting their partner
When you have a child, your priorities tend to shift. This is good, but you can’t forget about the other important people in your life – like your partner. Try your best to put as much care and attention into your relationship as you do your child. Your partner still needs you – don’t forget them or your relationship!
4. Neglecting themselves
On the topic of neglect, don’t forget your needs too! You still need to sleep, you still need to manage your diet, and you still need to exercise, see your friends, and generally enjoy your life! Whilst it may be harder to look after yourself and your child, you need to try. At the end of the day, the better you can take care of yourself, the better parent that you’ll be for your child.
5. Saying no to help
Lastly, try to avoid being one of those parents that say no to help when it’s offered. No one has truly raised their child alone, so why should you have to? Getting help is ok. If anything, it’s encouraged!
Try to avoid these things that we’ve outlined here as best you can, so you can be the best parent that you can be!